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Dear Guru ji, What is required for one to become a teacher?
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Willingness
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Pundit ji, how can one overcome a broken heart?
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How to overcome a broken heart? How do you do that?
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Wake up and see the truth of life
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What are you hanging on to? What breaks your heart?
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Someone's behaviour? Someone's words? Haan?
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Weakness of the heart should be shunned
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and truth need to be known. What is truth?
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Everything in the world changes
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and everything is going to change
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has changed, will change in the future
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And you are going to drop your own body which you love so much
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All your life, all that you do, spend so much money
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put the cream here, put the cream there
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put the lipstick every two hours, every hour
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and take care of this body, it's not going to listen to you one day
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and you want to move your hand, you cannot move, you want to lift your eyes, you cannot
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open your eyes, you want to say something, your tongue will not move
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whole body will strike and then you simply have to exit of this body
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you exit dejected, frustrated because the body is totally
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rebellious to your commands.
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And the body will not listen whatever you say, you want to do
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And when you had to exit and you exit
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from the body you see it's like a waste material
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Nobody would like to get into it again
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Such is the truth of life, everything is going
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to disappear, everybody is going to die
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You are going to die. The person who broke your heart is going to die as well.
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So as long as you are alive, wake up and do something good
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Forget about it.
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Be bold, courageous
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Aan...so and so said this thing, oh so and so did
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like this, oh so and so misbehaved with me, what misbehaved
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You needed it.
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That makes you strong.
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Be like a lion.
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Roar like a lion.
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Upset...oh this gone, that gone
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Joy comes and goes, misery comes and goes
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Your pleasure...you are hanging on to pleasure, and your pleasure cannot stay forever
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sustain you all the time
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so pleasure, pain, all this comes and goes in life
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what is the big deal about broken heart
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Know for sure you love everybody and everyone loves you
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whatever their words are, their behaviours are, wherever
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Never doubt in the love.
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Love is some thing like space, it can never diminish
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it can never go away. That's true love.
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All this 'ya ya ya ya' of the mind
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Good for nothing.
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Don't waste your precious life in all that
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"I'm broken heart, I'm broken heart"
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If your limbs get broken, you can put
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What do you call it? Plaster? Cast it, plaster it
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The heart gets broken, you wake up, it's never broken.
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It's rubber. Your heart, make it like rubber, not a glass.
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Glass heart can break with little heat or little cold.
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Make your heart elastic like rubber
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And that's what the knowledge does, transform your heart.
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transform your mind, transform your actions.
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Feeling so lucky to be in this knowledge.
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Isn't it? How many of you feel absolutely lucky?
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Beloved master, I am tired of feeling wrong
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and don't know how to give it up when so many "You're wrong" messages come from my environment
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I don't like annoying or offending people and I'm sensitive to looks or tones of displeasure
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Historically, I have simply isolated myself
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But now, I am more in the world and find myself responding
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to others' annoyance with me by wanting to again withdraw
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because I can't be right enough, to keep from stepping on toes
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In the DSN course, we were asked to give and take criticism and to listen
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carefully, joyfully even, when another criticized us
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Even if their criticism was inaccurate
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Some criticisms have very harsh consequences
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such as the situation you described on Saturday evening, where a prominent businessman
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is losing his reputation and probably income
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Is there any point at which it is appropriate to stop taking criticism joyfully
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and speak up for oneself? Do I need to go
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live away from others because I can't be right enough?
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I'm tired of feeling that my well intentioned actions need defending when the
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outcome goes wrong or another judges the outcome wrong.
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Please share your wisdom with me and I'll try to do it right.
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Your grateful, if weary, disciple.
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It's the yoga, the asana, meditation, all this pranayama,
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this improves your skill in action
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Your intentions are right, but your action goes wrong
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There is some gear shift has happened. For that,
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you gain the skill by knowledge, by being in knowledge
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but don't think you have not progressing. You are progressing.
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For sure. Turn back and see. How dull you were, 10 years ago
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and how you are, today.
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There is an improvement. There is a proverb in Hindi,
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By spoiling many times, even a donkey can become God.
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Spoiling means.............that
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like in the milk it spoils, it becomes curd, and curd gets spoiled,
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broken, it becomes butter, butter gets broken, it becomes ghee
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So there is always, in every breaking up,
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there is always something good coming out of it.
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So in the same way, if a mistake has happened, from the mistake something
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good can come out.It doesn't mean you should keep doing mistakes.
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See, so in every miserable situation, something better can come out of it.
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Hmm. Sit Down. Yeah
