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welcome to love guru girls channel, I'm your relationship coach love guru
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please ignore the tone of my voice
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sunday I had relationship workshop for boys, so
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my voice is ruined, this is my phone consultation client's story, she is a girl and she says that
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she had love marriage, she loved him for 2 years and married for 1 year
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there is no issues in normal time, but during fights
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many issues happens, that man beats her like a dog, use bad words and he behaved like a psycho
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he is beating her so much that she went to hospital , she also can't lose him
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because she loved him so much and her kin and kith are saying that
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it's better to divorce him, she was confused
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that boy suddenly says that he won't use violence aginst her and requested her to stay with him
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she trusted that, but after some days he behaved in same way and even more worse this time
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and she was totally traumatised now
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she is not sure about reforming him or giving him a divorce
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she asked that, so girls this is my topic, ehat is the solution for this
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can you allow your partner to hit you or use bad words against you?, the next thing I'm going to say will be the right answer
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actually, you may saw the movie called 'Arjun Reddy'
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they remade that movie in Hindi as 'Kabir Singh', tnat movie faced backlash from media
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that is, the hero and director of the movie
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promotes male chauvinism, may criticism are there
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so it has same accusation of beating and swearing at partner
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that director said one reply, that is the important point
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he said that, "If I couldn't hit my partner, if I couldn't use any cuss words on my partner, I don't see there is any love in it"
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he is saying that if he can't hit his partner
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if he can't use cuss words against her then he can't able to see love in that
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yes, why he said that,
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there is some boundary there, there is some privacy betweeen two
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love is something that we don't have a privacy when two people are together
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girls be clear, being limitless with a person is called love
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if you can't hit are curse your partner then there is some boundary, privacy and it's not love
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many will tell I'm a male patriarchist
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I'm not like that, my partner has same freedome of
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swearing and beating me, does it means she will hit me
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I will try to kiss and compromise her...
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she has all rights of me, and same goes for all women
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that is called love, there is a limit, scolding and hitting is fine
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slightly pain giving hits are okay, but hitting like psycho
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is not fine, it maybe boy or girl
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some may argue that girls are not that much violent, I saw girls who beat boys like kovai sarala
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so girls, slightly pain giving bumps is okay
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beating like a psycho is wrong
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in that time those people can't control their emotions
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this is a problem ofcourse
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during that time in someday they will cross their emotion
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and they have a chance of killing you in the process
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I never say that they will kill you, but
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they may kill you with the chance of 10%
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so never take risk in this case
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if he is like a psycho or emotionally unstable, then do dump him
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searching another guy will be the best solution
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or if you're bound to the marriage or long lasted relationship
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girls this is the only solution and this is hard
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when he will control his emotions depends on when you turn into higher value
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but the issue is to learn about higher value itself
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take one year and you need to change then
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learning will take one year and changing will also
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take some time, if your age is 25 and
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you are in normal value for 25 years and do you turn into higher value in a single day?
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never, even if learned for a year
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it will take even one more year for you to turn higher value
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after you doen that he will gradually control his emotions
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but it won't happen in an instant
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be clear if his age is 25 years
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and he can't change himself in a single day
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even if you're a higher value girl now, it will take one more year for him to have control
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so it will take 3 years, if you truly love him take your time
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but there is small risk that is the 10% risk in first 2 years
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he may do soemthing bad to you, some girls are there
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who can't turn into higher value even if you teach each and every step
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that's their nature and if you be like that he won't reform himself
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and he will beat you like a psycho for life and it's a major risk
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so better quit that relationship
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