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welcome to "Love Guru", Tamil's first relationship coaching channel
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hi, I'm your relationship coach XXX
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till now we saw about nice guys, their behaviors, why they rejected by girls, you're what type in alpha male series
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from now, we'll see about how to convert from nice into strong guy
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then how to change into a alpha male from being a strong guy
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so now we'll see how we can change from nice guy into strong guy
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it's possible by removing the characteristics of a nice guy
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then we can change into a strong guy
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those characteristics we're removing today are
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'Pleasing behaviour' that's nothing but
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making others happy, first of all why we need this?
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if we do that so they will love us back and give
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the validation we need, why are we doing this?
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because nice guys thinking that they can't live alone
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and they want approval from others for being a good man
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so they search validation from others
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they also think that their life is only worth if any girl loves them
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I'll give a example,
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one father is taking her daughter to park every day
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the reason he doing this was,
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he want others in the park to think like, "he is a good father and he raising his child well"
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and he want to hear that, by doing this
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he searches validation for a good father, listen he tries to be happy by getting validated by others
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this is very weak behaviour, we need to validate ourselves
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so we need to decide, if we are good or bad
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we need to think it's unwanted to get validation from others
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this is a strong behaviour, I'll tell you an another example
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nice guys will do the extra work gave by their co-workers
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they're like fools and think that
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"to get a good validation from him, I need to do his work"
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and hoping that he will work for him in future and they blindly do their friend's works
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just understand, he won't even care a hair for you
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they will use this as a opportunity to load their work to our hands
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these are all happening due to one mistakes only
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they can't live independently
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they will please others as they believe that they need to depend on others
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and they try to impress others
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just understand this is the difference between a nice guy and a strong guy
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nice guy think that he can't live alone and
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and a strong guy will think that he is enough for himself and won't require others
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okay how to get rid of this pleasing behaviour
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if you use the 4 tricks Im saying
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then you'll get rid of this nice guy behaviours
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we'll see about those 4 tricks
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no 1 : Spending time alone
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for few days isolate yourself, ask questions like, what I want?,
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what is right for me?, what will make me happy?
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think about those things, if you practice this isolation
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that will make you belive that you can be alone without needing anyone
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"we need nobody",
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that emotion will prove that you can live happily without anyone
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so we won't impress others due to this
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and won't please anyone also
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no 2: Taking care of ourself
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first of all, the reason we're trying to impress others is we think that we're worthless
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we'll need someone to say that we're worthy person
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so first of all we need to prove that we're worth to ourselves
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for that we need to exercise daily, eat healthy foods
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wear good dress, shoes and have good hairstyle
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then make yourself look good
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if you saw yourself good at the mirror
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then it will improve your confident very much
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this will make yourself worthy, so by this
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we don't need to impress or please others
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no 3: Affirmation helps
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you may heard about the thory of law of attraction
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it states that, whatever thing you may think or say frequently that thing will be
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happen as this universe will make that for you
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scientists have discovered many things, but
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they many claim that law of attraction is the best among those
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so, always say "I'm the best","I'm a strong guy"
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"I'm a confident man and I love myself so much"
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repeat these words frequently
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after some time, your character will change depending upon the words you say, without your knowledge
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so automatically you will become a strong and
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confident guy and will love yourself
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then you can independent
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no 4: revealing ourself
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the issue with nice guys is, they think that if we show our true characters to others
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they won't love us, and they make a fake character to love
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and impress others, so first of all
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you need to be bold and tell your true character with your friends
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tell your friend, if you have porn addiction
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he may also reply that he has that addiction
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tell a girl that you will drink once in a week and she'll ask you to buy drinks
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if you tell your parents taht you'll speak bad words
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then they will tell you to reduce that and will support you
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if we tell our true character to others
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then they will surely love us
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if we know that others love us for our true character
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then we'll never impress others with lies
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in small age I'll use the trick were I'll speak bad words in the middle of the road
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there will be girls, aunties in the road
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I did that because others may think wrong about me, I don't care
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my parents feed me, so I don't care about others opinions
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I can show my tru colours boldy, I did it because
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I need no one, I can live happily without others
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I wanted to prove it to myself so I did that
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I became really independent, so if you use this 4 tricks
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you will easily get rid off that pleasing behaviour
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in the beginning it may be uncomfortable for you to follow these tricks
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but, if you follow these for 3 months then
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you'll surely get out from this pleasing behaviour
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