When someone hurts us, the desire to lash back often feels more satisfying than silence—

but unleashing on the other person isn’t the best way to handle conflict.

How, then, should we handle anger, which often needs some type of release? Consider following in Abraham Lincoln’s footsteps.

Historian Doris Kearns Goodwin explained that when Lincoln was upset with somebody,

he would write what he called a “hot letter” filled with his frustrations and feelings.

He’d set that letter aside until his emotions had cooled, and then sign the letter “never sent, never signed.”

Lincoln knew that being heard, even by a piece of paper,

is just one way we can help wisely relieve the pressure of built-up anger. I’m Mac Hammond, and this is the Winner’s Minute.